New Frame Counselling & Psychotherapy St Albans, Hertfordshire.

Counselling and Psychotherapy for Individuals and Couples in St. Albans, Hertfordshire

New Frame Counselling & Psychotherapy; Counselling St Albans; Relationships, Anxiety, Depression & Trauma

Counselling and Psychotherapy for Individuals and Couples in St. Albans, Hertfordshire

New Frame Counselling & Psychotherapy; Counselling St Albans; Relationships, Anxiety, Depression & Trauma

Counselling and Psychotherapy for Individuals and Couples in St. Albans, Hertfordshire

New Frame Counselling & Psychotherapy; Counselling St Albans; Relationships, Anxiety, Depression & Trauma

Counselling and Psychotherapy for Individuals and Couples in St. Albans, Hertfordshire

New Frame Counselling & Psychotherapy; Counselling St Albans; Relationships, Anxiety, Depression & Trauma

Counselling and Psychotherapy for Individuals and Couples in St. Albans, Hertfordshire

New Frame Counselling & Psychotherapy; Counselling St Albans; Relationships, Anxiety, Depression & Trauma

Counselling and Psychotherapy for Individuals and Couples in St. Albans, Hertfordshire

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Do you struggle with not feeling good enough?

Are you kind to others but extremely critical about yourself?

Are you a people pleaser, even when it is at your own expense?

Do you need your own space to talk and be heard without the fear of judgement?

 

If some of these feelings resonate, then counselling can be the right fit for you.

A warm welcome to you and thank you for visiting New Frame Counselling and Psychotherapy.

My name is Lizandra Leigertwood and I'm an experienced counsellor and psychotherapist in St Albans, Herts.

Lizandra Leigertwood Relationship Counsellor & Psychotherapist in Hertfordshire

 

I help people to improve their relationships, whether that's the relationship that you have with yourself, or the relationships that you have with others.

Therapy Can Help You 

 Improve your self awareness and develop coping strategies to improve your self worth

Challenge the negative or critical thoughts and behaviours that hold you back

 Become Self Compassionate 

Improve your relationships 

 

My private counselling practice is based in Hertfordshire, St Albans which is easily accessible from nearby areas such as Hemel Hempstead, Watford, Potters Bar, Kings Langley, Harrow, Finchley, Barnet and North London.

I work with individuals over the age of eighteen and couples for short-term counselling or longer-term psychotherapy.

 

Some of the areas I work with include:

  • Couples Counselling
  • Trauma
  • Personality Disorders
  • Bereavement and Loss
  • Anxiety
  • Depression
  • Relationship problems (including family & work)

My special interest areas are working with relationships, anxiety and trauma. 

I am an integrative relational therapist, which means I am able to use different ways of working to create an individual therapy experience that is catered to you.

 

Through counselling you can:

  • Learn effective ways to communicate
  • Identify what your needs are and get them met
  • Feel calmer when facing stressful situations
  • Develop problem solving skills
  • Increase your confidence and self esteem

 

Maybe you want to feel better about some difficult family relationships and move on from past hurtful experiences.

Perhaps you feel that you react out of anger or resentment and would like to make a change, or you feel unable to make a decision or feel like you make the wrong choices.

I'm a firm believer in hope and the power to change, you don't have to go through difficult times alone. Counselling can help you to hear your own voice and make sense of what it is that is causing you distress.

Please contact me for a free initial 15-minute telephone consultation to discuss your individual needs and to see how therapy can help you.

 

 

“You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.”
– Dr Martin Luther King Jr.

About Me

St Albans Counselling: My name is Lizandra Leigertwood and I am a fully qualified counsellor and psychotherapist. I help individuals and couples to have better relationships in St Albans, Hertfordshire.

How Counselling and Psychotherapy Can Help

New Frame Counselling & Psychotherapy; Counselling St Albans, Hertfordshire.

New Frame

Sometimes we find ourselves stuck in the same or similar situations - perhaps you are feeling unsatisfied in your relationships – feeling used, unheard or just misunderstood. It can be difficult to expect others to change without knowing more about our selves and what we can do to sustain healthier relationships. We can’t always change the situation, but we can learn, develop and change how we deal with difficulty. Counselling and Psychotherapy can facilitate in finding a new frame of reference, which can reframe your experience, helping you to find clarity and understanding.

New Frame Counselling & Psychotherapy St Albans, Hertfordshire.

New Hope

This is the first step towards help and change. Counselling can provide a confidential, safe and non-judgemental environment to fully explore your wants and needs. Together, we can work towards finding new ways to improve your relationships with others, and most importantly, your self.

New Frame Counselling & Psychotherapy; Counselling St Albans Hertfordshire. Therapy for anxiety, depression and relationships

New Perspective

The therapeutic relationship offers a unique experience where you are able to develop personal insight and awareness. This is facilitated by understanding how past experiences can impact the present. Understanding our patterns of thought and behaviour can lead toward lasting positive change so that you can lead a happier and more fulfilling life.

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If you want to know more about relationships, why If you want to know more about relationships, why you choose the people that you do or understand your behaviours in relationships, then I highly recommend this book. ⁠It's an interesting read on relationships and human behaviour. ⁠
I often recommend this book to clients and it's also the book I recommend on my latest blog:
Why you need to know about attachment in relationships. ⁠
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If you haven't read it yet, what are you waiting for? Link is in the bio.⁠
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Relationship anxiety might be a sign that you have Relationship anxiety might be a sign that you have an anxious attachment style.⁠
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When you have an anxious attachment you can feel very uncertain about your relationships. You probably have difficulties with self esteem and self worth, which can cause you to often worry that your partner is going to leave you, or replace you with somebody better. ⁠
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As you are often anxious about the security of your relationship, you will also experience difficulty with trusting your partner. ⁠
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Your uncertainty means that you are constantly looking for reassurance and seeking validation in your relationship, which is likely to filter into many of your other experiences.⁠
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Do you agree? ⁠ There are 4 main attachment type Do you agree? ⁠
There are 4 main attachment types in relationships, ⁠
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Anxious, Avoidant, Secure and Disorganised. ⁠
You can learn a lot about yourself and your relationships in my latest blog post.⁠
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Have a read and you can take the attachment quiz at the end to find out your attachment style.⁠
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🔊 New Blog Post ⠀ ♥️Why you need to know 🔊 New Blog Post ⠀
♥️Why you need to know about attachment in relationships. ♥️⠀
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We all have our own attachment style, it tells us how it can influence your behaviours in a relationship and the type of relationships you encounter. ⠀
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Knowing more about attachment and your own attachment can be a game changer, particularly if you find relationships difficult confusing or you try to avoid them at all costs. ⠀
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Read my blog and you can take the attachment quiz at the end to find out your attachment style. ⠀
This is one of my favourite subjects so it was fun to write this one.⠀
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Any questions, add it to the comments ✌🏾⠀
Link is in bio 🔗⠀
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Today is known as #bluemonday the most depressing Today is known as #bluemonday the most depressing day of the year.
I don’t know who got to decide that, is it because there are 199 days in January? ⠀
The long dark days? ⠀
Because it’s cold af? ⠀
Well today I’m starting the week with a bit of gratitude anyway. ⠀
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#newweek #monday #mondayblues #gratitude #dailygratitude #practicegratitude #purposefulliving #bepresent #begrateful #smallthings #notice #selfaware #selfawarenessjouney #therapistsofinstagram #selfcare #mindfulliving #gratitudejournal #journalling #selfcompassion #wellbeing
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Self care: If you wait until you are feeling emoti Self care:
If you wait until you are feeling emotionally, physically or mentally exhausted, then it’s too late.
Experiencing burn out is a gradual process, which is why self care is important as an ongoing practice. .
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#selfcaresunday #selfcare #selfcaretips #selfcarepage #selfcareideas #selfcareeveryday #selfcareisimportant #selfcareisnotselfish #selfwork #selfloveclub #ultimateselfcare #takecareofyou #keepwell #wellbeing #emotionalwellbeing #emotionalintelligence #therapistsofinstagram #mentalwellbeing #resilience
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When your party trick amounts to a tongue roll. V When your party trick amounts to a tongue roll.
Via @sarcasm_only .
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Don't lose yourself trying to please others. When Don't lose yourself trying to please others.
When you focus on yourself and establish healthy boundaries, it can transform the way that you feel about yourself and your relationships.
Do what fits in with your values instead of valuing everybody else’s input or opinions above your own. ⭐️ The most important relationship you will ever have is the one with yourself. ⁠⭐️
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#loveyourself #selfworth #youareworthy #love #kind #kindness #compassion #empathy #selfcompassion #selfwork #bekind #selfcare #kindnessisselfcare ⁠
#peoplepleaser #traumarecovery #relationaltrauma #codependency #healingtrauma #authenticself #selfworth  #selfvalidation #boundaries #healthyboundaries #therapistsofonstagram #newframetherapy
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When you break your silence you are choosing to he When you break your silence you are choosing to heal 💓
You can take your power back and relieve the symptoms of living with the consequences of shame.
What living with shame can look like: 🚫Low Self Worth
🚫Difficulty in Relationships
🚫Perfectionism 🚫Unrealistic Expectations 🚫Anxiety Disorders 🚫Depression 🚫Addiction ⭐️ Therapy is a great place to have your voice heard in a safe non-judgemental environment. ⁠
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#healingshame #trauma #relationaltrauma #emotionalwellbeing #emotionalintelligence ⁠
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We all have thoughts or days when we are less than We all have thoughts or days when we are less than kind with ourselves. ⁠
Your inner critic and chronic low self worth can develop from experiences of shame or invalidation in childhood. ⁠We can take on negative experiences and internalise them into how we feel about ourselves. ⁠ 💫Try to give yourself kindness and compassion to interrupt your inner critic.⁠💫
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#innercritic #selfcritic #banishyourinnercritic #challengeyourinnercritic #challengeyourthoughts #negativeautomaticthoughts #negativethoughts #negativethinking #limitingbeliefs #selfsabotage #dontbelieveeverythingyouthink #youarenotyourthoughts #anxiety #perfectionism #impostersyndrome #therapistsofinstagram #anxietyproblems #anxietyrecovery #cognitivedistortion #selfworth #selfvalidation #selfwork
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Be that support network for your friends. ⁠ I ho Be that support network for your friends. ⁠
I hope you are lucky enough to have friends that see you, support you and validate you. ⁠
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#friends #friendssupportfriends #friendship #truefriendship #realfriendship #feminist #femaleempowerment #strengthinnumbers #womensupportingwomen #wecanallmakeit #relationships #authenticity #validation
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Stop moving in autopilot for a sec and check in wi Stop moving in autopilot for a sec and check in with how you're feeling.⁠
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#allthefeels #feelyourfeelings #takeamoment #feel #itsoktofeel #emotionalintelligence #emotionalregulation #emotionalhealth #emotionalwellness #selfcare #resilience #selfcompassion #selfawareness #selfwork #therapyhelps #therapistsofinstagram #wellbeing #mentalhealth #counselling #psychotherapy #newframetherapy #stalbans
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This made me laugh. Where do your assumptions take This made me laugh. Where do your assumptions take you? ⁠
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The sooner you get help for your relationship, the The sooner you get help for your relationship, the more likely you are to be able to make changes and heal.
Couples can get set in their ways with toxic behaviours over months and years building resentments without realising just how much damage they are causing their relationship and emotional wellbeing. ⁠
When it comes to having a better relationship, sooner is better than later. ⁠
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#relationships #healthyrelationships #trust #respect #love #connection #commitment #intimacy #values #attachment #secureattachment #lovelanguages #marriage #childhoodexperiences #therapyhelps #therapistsofinstagram#couplescounselling #relationshiptherapy #relationshipcoaching #relationshiptips #relationshiptalk #marriagecounselling #couplegoals #relationshipgoals #boundaries #healthyboundaries #stalbans #herts #newframetherapy
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In relationships what you expect isn't always what In relationships what you expect isn't always what you get. ⁠
Sometimes you need to reevaluate what your expectations are, then you can appreciate what you get in reality. ⁠
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#gratitude #expectations #therapistsofinstagram #expectationsvsreality #selfvalidation #selfcompassion #selfwork #selfworth #selfcompassion #relationships #relationshipmatters #healthyrelationships #couplestherapy #relationshiptherapy #relationshiptips
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Happy Monday! My tip for this week: When things g Happy Monday!
My tip for this week:
When things get busy schedule self care into your diary, it’s a great way to stay accountable and ensure you’re taking some time out for your wellbeing.
I try to start the week with planning and some exercise.
How do you start yours? .
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#selfcare #selfcaretips #selfcareroutine #selfcarematters #wellbeing #newweeknewstart #mindset #selfwork #therapistsofinstagram #selfcompassion #selflove #selfloveclub #selfcareisntselfish
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Do you listen to what it is that your partner need Do you listen to what it is that your partner needs? ⠀
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Here are 3 steps to help with this process to REALLY listen and not just wait to respond with your well timed and well thought out rebuttal so you can “win” the argument. ⠀
I can be a know it all too so I get it 🙈⠀
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1. Body Language - be openly receptive to communication⠀
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2. Remove distractions - no phone scrolling or eyes at the TV⠀
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We made it through the first week back to work and We made it through the first week back to work and routine.
Hope it wasn’t too brutal for you.
The weekend is almost here, so take a breather. Your body will thank you for it. ⠀
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#breathwork #thebodyremembers #breathingexercises #healing #trauma #healingtrauma #traumarecovery #emotionalhealing #groundingtechniques #stabilisation #mindfulness #takeamoment #listentoyourbody #relationaltrauma #therapistsofinstagram #counselling #psychotherapy #selfcare #selfwork #newframetherapy
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A perfect night in. ⠀ One of life’s little ple A perfect night in. ⠀
One of life’s little pleasures. How do you self care? ⠀
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Does your brain automatically go to the worst case Does your brain automatically go to the worst case scenario? Catastrophising or awfulising is a common cognitive distortion which is a form of anxious thinking. ⠀
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More often than not, it’s not as bad as you think.⠀
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You can learn to rationalise your thoughts by challenging your anxious thoughts with a more balanced perspective. ⠀
It’s not about always putting a  positive spin on everything but instead of assuming it will end badly, ask yourself, what if it all works out? ⠀
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It takes practice and consistency, but it works.⠀
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#anxiety #anxietyrelief #anxietyrecovery #anxietysupport #anxietyawareness #anxietyproblems  #anxietytherapy #selfhelp #selfhealing #therapist #therapistsofinstagram #counsellor #counselling #mentalhealth  #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthrecovery #limitingbeliefs #therapistsofinstagram #therapy #cbt #cbttherapy #newframetherapy
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Therapy is for everybody.⠀ I specialise in worki Therapy is for everybody.⠀
I specialise in working with relationships. ⠀
That’s the relationship that you have with yourself, or the relationship that you have with others. ⠀
We are defined by our relationships, starting from early childhood continuing into adulthood. ⠀
How we relate can impact us in so many ways and it’s an area that I love working with. ⠀
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I only work with adults on an individual or couple basis. ⠀
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I’ve got a few spaces left if you would like to work on yourself or improve your relationship. ⠀
Get in touch to book a consultation.⠀
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Looking for validation in the wrong places leads t Looking for validation in the wrong places leads to a very fragile sense of self.⠀
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I love discovering new words, I’m adding this on I love discovering new words, I’m adding this one to my vocab. Everything is figureoutable. ⠀
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I’ll just leave this one here 🐸☕️⠀ .⠀ I’ll just leave this one here 🐸☕️⠀
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Things don’t have to be perfect in order for you Things don’t have to be perfect in order for you to move forward. ⠀
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#progressnotperfection #perfectionism #perfectionismrecovery #goodenough #toxicpositivity #expectations #expectationvsreality #smallsteps #anxietyproblems #impostersyndrome #selfvalidation #selfcompassion #selfwork #selfworth #counselling #psychotherapy #therapyhelps
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It’s been a pretty good year. ⠀ Thank you for It’s been a pretty good year. ⠀
Thank you for every follow and comment on my page, it’s appreciated. ⠀
Wishing you all health and happiness for 2020. ⠀
Let’s kick this years butt 😋⠀
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#best9of2019 #therapistsofinstagram #counselling #psychotherapy #mentalhealth #wellbeing #anxiety #depression #trauma #relationships #relationshiptherapy #couplescounselling #relationshipcoaching #authenticself #selfesteem #emotionalintelligence #resilience #change #growth #newframetherapy
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Wishing you a happy and healthy New Year. ⠀ Can Wishing you a happy and healthy New Year. ⠀
Can you believe it’s a whole new decade? ⠀
What are you going to leave behind in 2019 and forge ahead with in 2020. ⠀
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#happynewyear #newyear #freshstart #newbeginnings #embracechange #acceptance #healthyliving #balancedlifestyle #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #emotionalwellbeing #selfcare #therapistsofinstagram #counselling #psychotherapy #therapy #therapyhelps
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There’s a lot of talk about setting New Years re There’s a lot of talk about setting New Years resolutions and goal setting, if that’s for you, then great. ⠀
But it is not for everyone, and that’s okay. ⠀
If the only thing you’ve done this year is survive, that’s more than good enough. ⠀
If all you do next year is survive, that’s good enough too. ⠀
Sometimes life is messy, hard and complicated and that’s the part people tend to not post about. ⠀
Don’t get caught up in everybody’s highlight reel, it’s just a snippet in time. ⠀
Be kind to yourself going into 2020. ⠀
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A valuable lesson and reminder to keep your expect A valuable lesson and reminder to keep your expectations of others in check. ⠀
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Are you still practicing your festive self care? . Are you still practicing your festive self care? .
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#festiveselfcare #selfcare #selfcaretips #selfcareday #connect #connections #friends #friendship #family #healthyrelationships
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New Year, New You. I’m not for it. If you want New Year, New You.
I’m not for it. If you want to make a change, why not just start now.
Reframing is a therapy technique that helps you to look at things from a different perspective, when you can make a mental shift in perspective then you can become empowered to make the right change for you.
You can read my blog from last year to help you get started.
Link is up in the bio. .
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#newyear #newgoals #mondaymotivation #newbeginnings #goalsetting #reflect #dream #achieve #selfwork #selfvalidation #selfworth #selfcare #authenticity #domoreofwhatmakesyouhappy
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Writing down three things that you are grateful fo Writing down three things that you are grateful for is a great way to interrupt anxiety and improve wellbeing.
Try it consistently for 21 days and notice how you can shift your perspective for the better. .
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#gratitude #expressgratitude #gratitudejournal #journaling #wellbeing #mentalhealth #mentalhealthmatters #anxiety #anxietyrelief #neuroscience #mindset #perspective #selfcare #therapistsofinstagram #counselling #psychotherapy
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We are now entering the Christmas abyss, do we kno We are now entering the Christmas abyss, do we know what day of the week it is?
Is chocolate now a part of a food group?
Does getting dressed mean just putting on new pyjamas? .
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#festiveselfcare
#christmastime #lazyday #familytime #makingmemories #pyjamaday #selfcare #selfcareeveryday #downtime #recharge #relax #reflect
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Now that the big day is over, spend some time focu Now that the big day is over, spend some time focusing on you.
Your mental health is important. .
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#thischristmas #boxingday #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthmatters #wellbeing #healthiswealth #selfcare #christmasselfcare #selfcarematters #selflove #selfloveclub
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Merry Christmas Eve! I posted this gem last year Merry Christmas Eve!
I posted this gem last year but it still applies🍴
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#christmasrules #christmaseve #mentalhealth #wellbeing #christmastime #selfcare
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With Christmas coming you might be feeling unprepa With Christmas coming you might be feeling unprepared or that what you’ve done isn’t good enough.
Matching plates and glasses really are not the end of the world and those little details are not what people remember.
It’s being together and creating memories that count ❤️
This is also me taking my own advice and letting the small stuff go. .
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#creatingmemories #memories #pricelessmoments #dontsweatthesmallstuff #familytime  #worryless #choosehappiness #realitycheck #gratitude #gratitudeeveryday #appreciatelife #simplethings
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I still learn from this, it can get real messy whe I still learn from this, it can get real messy when you start explaining yourself, but who says you have to? .
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#noisacompletesentence #sayingno #boundaries #setboundaries #settingboundaries #healthyboundaries #boundariesarehealthy #relationships #healthyrelationships #itsokaytosayno #emotionalhealth #wellbeing #therapistsofinstagram #selfcare
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I am now officially closed for the Christmas perio I am now officially closed for the Christmas period and will be back in the office on January 6th. ⁠
I will however be popping up on your timeline so keep a lookout for self care tips during the festive period. ⁠
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You can contact me via email to book an appointment for the new year. ⁠
Wishing you all a happy & peaceful Christmas. ⁠
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Keep Well:)⁠ Lizandra ⁠
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One of my biggest pet peeves is when I hear somebo One of my biggest pet peeves is when I hear somebody else say that they know someone better than they know themselves. ⁠
Even as a therapist, there is going to be no better expert on you, than you. ⁠
If you find somebody that tells you otherwise, run as fast as you can in the other direction. .
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#selfawareness #boundaries #toxicrelationships #complextrauma #abusiverelationship #healthyrelationships #covertnarcississist #toxicfriends #narcississtfree #traumabond #narcissist #relationalabuse #traumarecovery #healing #respect #autonomy #selfvalue #selfworth #selfcare
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This is a blog post that I first wrote three Chris This is a blog post that I first wrote three Christmas's ago, which has become my most read and shared blog to date. ⁠
There is something about naming and talking about grief and loss, which helps us with feeling connected and realising that we are not alone. ⁠
I'll keep it easily accessible for a limited time for anybody that might need it. ⁠
You can read it by visiting the link in my bio. .
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#loss #grief #christmas #christmastime #relationships #endings #traditions #mentalhealth #mentalhealthblog #mentalhealthawareness #lossofalovedone #griefjourney #griefawareness #griefsupport #emotionalsupport #therapistsofinstagram #wellbeing #counselling #psychotherapy #newframetherapy #stalbans
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Self care can take on many different forms, it's n Self care can take on many different forms, it's not just about giving yourself something external, the internal work is where the real shift is. .
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#therapy #therapyhelps #talktherapy #seekhelp #trauma #ptsd #cptsd #copingmechanism #copingskills #selfwork #dissociation #selfcare #selfcareishowyoutakeyourpowerback #unhealthyrelationships #therapistsofinstagram #healingtrauma #narcissistabuse #gaslighting #childhoodtrauma #hiddenabuse #relationaltrauma #traumarecovery #traumasurvivor #traumabond #attachment #mentalhealthrecovery #survivor
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Sometimes just when it gets really tough can be wh Sometimes just when it gets really tough can be when the magic happens. Do not give up. .
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#notetoself #yougotthis #selfmotivation #anxiety #anxietyproblems #overthinking #youcandothis #youcandohardthings #adulting #youareenough #setgoals #dontquit #stayfocused #ownit #perfectionist #impostersyndrome #youarewhatyouthink #mindset #createyourreality #resilience #mentalhealthrecovery
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I love what I do but I am also very much looking f I love what I do but I am also very much looking forward to sitting on my butt and bingeing on Christmas films this holiday.
It’s been a very busy few months so all in the name of self care.
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#notevensorry #therapistselfcare #therapistlife #therapistsofinstagram #counsellor #psychotherapist #selfcare #selfcaretips #selfcarepage #selfcareideas #selfcareeveryday #selfcareisimportant #selfcareisnotselfish #selfwork #ultimateselfcare #takecareofyou #keepwell #wellbeing #emotionalwellbeing #emotionalintelligence #therapy #therapyhelps #mentalwellbeing #resilience
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I’ll just leave this one here. Be kind people! . I’ll just leave this one here. Be kind people! .
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#dailyreminder #notetoself
#kindness #bekind #kind #kindnessmatters #kindnessisfree #bekindtooneanother #actofkindness #compassion #selfless #kindnessiscontagious #relationships #healthyrelationships
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In relationships the best apology is changed behav In relationships the best apology is changed behaviour.
Saying sorry is nice and all but what is really the point in apologising and then doing the exact same thing?
It ends up being insulting and doing more harm than good.
Don't make a habit out of saying just for the sake of it. ⁠
If you're not sorry, just own it.
Sorry without any action is just a word. .
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#relationshipgoals #boundaries #healthyboundaries #therapistsofinstagram
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Very cold and a little wind swept, how are you doi Very cold and a little wind swept, how are you doing?⠀
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#checkin #emotionalhealth #wellbeing #mentalhealth #selfcare #emotionalintelligence #newweek #therapistsofinstagram
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That pesky inner critic will have you in a downwar That pesky inner critic will have you in a downward spiral thinking that you are not good enough. ⠀
You don’t have to let negative thoughts win and you don’t have to believe everything that you think, so give that inner critic the middle finger and keep it moving.
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#nottodaysatan #innercritic #selfcritic #banishyourinnercritic #challengeyourinnercritic #challengeyourthoughts #negativethoughts #selfsabotage #dontbelieveeverythingyouthink #youarenotyourthoughts #anxiety #perfectionism #impostersyndrome #anxietyproblems #anxietyrecovery #cognitivedistortion #selfworth #selfcompassion #selfvalidation #selfwork #therapistsofinstagram #newframetherapy
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