New Frame Counselling & Psychotherapy; St Albans Counselling

Counselling and Psychotherapy for Individuals and Couples in St. Albans, Hertfordshire

New Frame Counselling & Psychotherapy; Counselling St Albans; Relationships, Anxiety, Depression & Trauma

Counselling and Psychotherapy for Individuals and Couples in St. Albans, Hertfordshire

New Frame Counselling & Psychotherapy; Counselling St Albans; Relationships, Anxiety, Depression & Trauma

Counselling and Psychotherapy for Individuals and Couples in St. Albans, Hertfordshire

New Frame Counselling & Psychotherapy; Counselling St Albans; Relationships, Anxiety, Depression & Trauma

Counselling and Psychotherapy for Individuals and Couples in St. Albans, Hertfordshire

New Frame Counselling & Psychotherapy; Counselling St Albans; Relationships, Anxiety, Depression & Trauma

Counselling and Psychotherapy for Individuals and Couples in St. Albans, Hertfordshire

New Frame Counselling & Psychotherapy; Counselling St Albans; Relationships, Anxiety, Depression & Trauma

Counselling and Psychotherapy for Individuals and Couples in St. Albans, Hertfordshire

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Counselling St Albans for Individuals & Couples

 For Better Relationships

 

Do you struggle with not feeling good enough?

 

Are you kind to others but extremely critical about yourself?

 

Are you a people pleaser, even when it is at your own expense?

 

Do you spend so much time being there for others that you forget about yourself? 

 

Do you need your own space to talk and be heard without the fear of judgement?

 

If some of these feelings resonate, then counselling can be the right fit for you.

 

A warm welcome to you and thank you for visiting New Frame Counselling and Psychotherapy.

My name is Lizandra Leigertwood and I'm an experienced counsellor and psychotherapist in St Albans, Herts.

St Albans Counselling; Lizandra Leigertwood Relationship Counsellor & Psychotherapist in Hertfordshire

 

I help people to improve their relationships,

whether that's the relationship that you have with yourself,

or the relationships that you have with others.

 

Therapy Can Help You 

 

 Improve your self awareness 

 

 Learn practical coping strategies  

 

Challenge the negative or critical thoughts and behaviours that hold you back

 

 Become Self Compassionate 

 

Develop healthy boundaries and have equality in your relationships 

 

 

 

Counselling St Albans

 

My private counselling practice is based in Hertfordshire, St Albans which is easily accessible from nearby areas such as Hemel Hempstead, Watford, Potters Bar, Kings Langley, Harrow, Finchley, Barnet and North London.

I am also available online, meaning that I can work with you from anywhere in the UK. 

I work with individuals over the age of eighteen and couples for short-term counselling or longer-term psychotherapy.

 

Areas I Work With

Individual Counselling

Focusing on self care, personal development and coping strategies for emotional resilience for a variety of issues

 

Couples Counselling

Improving communication, emotional connection and intimacy in committed relationships. 

 

Relationship Issues

Improving relationships with family members and those who are important to you

 

Trauma

Trauma informed therapy for emotional & physical abuse,  healing narcissistic abuse and PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress)

 

Anxiety

Understand your anxiety and develop practical techniques to manage anxiety, panic and overwhelm (includes cognitive behavioural techniques CBT)

 

Online Counselling

Online Counselling from the comfort of your own home

My special interest areas are working with relationships, anxiety and trauma. 

I am an integrative relational therapist, which means I am able to use different ways of working to create an individual therapy experience that is catered to you.

 

Through counselling you can:

  • Learn effective ways to communicate
  • Identify what your needs are and get them met
  • Feel calmer when facing stressful situations
  • Develop problem solving skills
  • Increase your confidence and self esteem

 

Maybe you want to feel better about some difficult family relationships and move on from past hurtful experiences.

Perhaps you feel that you react out of anger or resentment and would like to make a change, or you feel unable to make a decision or feel like you make the wrong choices.

I'm a firm believer in hope and the power to change, you don't have to go through difficult times alone.

Counselling can help you to hear your own voice and make sense of what it is that is causing you distress.

Please contact me for a free initial 15-minute telephone consultation to discuss your individual needs and to see how therapy can help you.

 

 

“You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.”
– Dr Martin Luther King Jr.

About Me

St Albans Counselling: My name is Lizandra Leigertwood and I am a fully qualified counsellor and psychotherapist. I help individuals and couples to have better relationships in St Albans, Hertfordshire.

How Counselling and Psychotherapy Can Help

St Albans Counselling; Counselling St Albans, Hertfordshire.

New Frame

Sometimes we find ourselves stuck in the same or similar situations - perhaps you are feeling unsatisfied in your relationships – feeling used, unheard or just misunderstood. It can be difficult to expect others to change without knowing more about our selves and what we can do to sustain healthier relationships. We can’t always change the situation, but we can learn, develop and change how we deal with difficulty. Counselling and Psychotherapy can facilitate in finding a new frame of reference, which can reframe your experience, helping you to find clarity and understanding.

New Frame Counselling & Psychotherapy; St Albans Counselling

New Hope

This is the first step towards help and change. Counselling can provide a confidential, safe and non-judgemental environment to fully explore your wants and needs. Together, we can work towards finding new ways to improve your relationships with others, and most importantly, your self.

New Frame Counselling & Psychotherapy; Counselling St Albans Hertfordshire. Therapy for anxiety, depression and relationships

New Perspective

The therapeutic relationship offers a unique experience where you are able to develop personal insight and awareness. This is facilitated by understanding how past experiences can impact the present. Understanding our patterns of thought and behaviour can lead toward lasting positive change so that you can lead a happier and more fulfilling life.

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I have some shiny new followers so thought I’d r I have some shiny new followers so thought I’d reintroduce myself and give you some random facts about me that you didn’t ask for 😂⠀
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I’m Lizandra and I’m a psychotherapist, I use this page to offer some psychoeducation and free tips and insight on mental health, emotional wellbeing and relationships. ⠀
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I share what I know from personal experience and being a therapist, but I don’t know it all and I’m always learning. ⠀
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I’m very lucky that I also get to learn a lot about human experience from my clients too. ⠀
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I’ve always been fascinated by human behaviour and what makes people tick, which is just one of the reasons why I trained as a therapist. ⠀
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My hope is to help normalise therapy and talking about mental health so that we can feel safe to talk about it and seek help when we need to, without shame or embarrassment. ⠀
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3 random facts ⠀
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1. One of my favourite things to do is afternoon tea. I’ve never met a cake I don’t like, unless there’s raisins in it, then it’s a no from me. ⠀
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2. My all time favourite TV show is F.R.I.E.N.D.S and I will laugh every time like it’s the first time I’ve ever seen it. ⠀
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3. I’m mostly an introvert and it’s taken MANY years to realise that it’s actually a super power and not a disadvantage. ⠀
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Tell me one random fact about you and come say hi! ⠀
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Here’s to spending 2 weeks behind the fridge 🥂⠀
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This is totally a repost so thank you to whoever made this as it brought a smile to my face. ⠀
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This time last year we were on a family holiday and social distancing was not even a thing. ⠀
I wonder if we knew it would be one of the last times we were abroad we would have been more in the moment and enjoyed it more....⠀
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#onedayatatime #gracenotperfection #selfisolation #socialdistancing2020 #inthistogether #thistooshallpass #spreadkindness #selfcompassion #selfacceptance #selflove #copingstrategies #counselling #psychotherapy #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapistsofinstagram #counsellorsofinstagram #newframetherapy #stalbans
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5 CORE ASPECTS OF SELF CARE ⠀ 🧠 Mental - cons 5 CORE ASPECTS OF SELF CARE ⠀
🧠 Mental - considering your mental wellbeing such as looking at stress, anxiety levels, mental functioning. ⠀
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🏋🏽Physical - taking care of your physical needs, keeping your body moving, staying hydrated, eating nourishing food, keeping up to date with physical health checks. ⠀
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🌸Emotional - checking in, acknowledging and accepting how you’re feeling⠀
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🍃Spiritual - how you feel connected, find peace or meaning. ⠀
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💙Relational - spending time with people who are good for your mental health. Healthy and equal relationships where you feel valued and respected. 🌟This also includes the relationship that you have with yourself.🌟
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Teaching clients to reframe their experiences and Teaching clients to reframe their experiences and actively challenge their inner critic so that they can be kind and self compassionate 💖⠀
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➡️LINK IN BIO ⬅️⠀ ⠀ For Mental Health ➡️LINK IN BIO ⬅️⠀
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For Mental Health Week you can listen to my guest podcast talking with @samsloma from @engagefinancial. ⠀
I was asked to share some tips on mental health and spoke about Self Care.⠀
What it is, the different aspects of self care, how you can recognise when you need it and how you can have more self care as part of a balanced lifestyle. ⠀
Let me know in the comments if you’ve had a listen and have any thoughts. ⠀
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#mentalhealthawarenessweek #mentalhealthawarenessweek2020 #mentalhealthmatters #weallhavementalhealth #spreadkindness #bekind #selfcompassion #compassion #selfawareness #resilience #emotionalintelligence #emotionalhealth #selfcare #selfcarejourney #counselling #psychotherapy #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapistsofinstagram #counsellorsofinstagram #newframetherapy #stalbans
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💙WE ALL HAVE MENTAL HEALTH💙⠀ ⠀ There are 💙WE ALL HAVE MENTAL HEALTH💙⠀
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There are so many things that’s happening right now which can understandably hurt our mental health. ⠀
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🌻As it’s mental health awareness week it’s a good time to keep the conversation about mental health going.
Not just for this week but as a continuous conversation - during this pandemic and beyond. ⠀
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💞The theme this year is kindness so that we can all raise our awareness of extending kindness to others, as well as ourselves. ⠀
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How are you being kind to yourself today? ⠀
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#mentalhealthawarenessweek2020 #mentalhealth #mentalhealthmatters #weallhavementalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthsupport #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealthrecovery #kindnessmatters #bekind #spreadkindness #bekindtoyourself #selfcompassion #selfawareness #selfcare #selfcarematters #counselling #psychotherapy #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapistsofinstagram #counsellorsofinstagram #newframetherapy #stalbans
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Do you think we might struggle with adapting to ph Do you think we might struggle with adapting to physical human connection again? ⁠⠀
I hope hugs don’t feel awkward, I love a good hug. ⁠⠀
@ your human that you can’t wait to embrace ⁠⠀
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#onedayatatime #gracenotperfection #selfisolation #socialdistancing2020 #inthistogether #thistooshallpass #spreadkindness #selfcompassion #selfacceptance #selflove #mentalhealthweek #bekind #kindnessmatters #copingstrategies #counselling #psychotherapy #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapistsofinstagram #counsellorsofinstagram #newframetherapy #stalbans
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I love showing clients the drama triangle as it’ I love showing clients the drama triangle as it’s super relatable. ⠀
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It helps you to recognise and become accountable for your own negative behaviour that we can unconsciously find ourselves stuck in. ⠀
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It’s easier to point out if somebody else is in the role or victim, persecutor or rescuer, but the real work starts with you and acknowledging your own patterns (ah, the wonders of self awareness).⠀
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If you want to change being in the same repetitive drama, identify your role and make an active change to behave differently (be gentle and compassionate with yourself) ⠀
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It completely changes the dynamics and means you can free yourself from this toxic cycle. ⠀
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#boundaries #healthyboundaries #relationships #healthyrelationships #toxicrelationships #relationaltrauma #complextrauma #redflags #emotionalhealth #emotionalwellbeing #abusiverelationship #covertnarcississist #toxicfriends #toxicpeople #narcississtfree #traumabond #narcissist  #traumarecovery #autonomy #selfvalue #selfworth #selfcare #selfcompassion #selfwork#counselling #psychotherapy #therapistsofinstagram #counsellorsofinstagram #newframetherapy
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Anybody else fed up of cooking and planning 3 meal Anybody else fed up of cooking and planning 3 meals per day? ⠀
I feel like 80% of my conversations involve “what should we have to eat” and this was my least favourite conversation even before lockdown 😄⠀
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I really miss Chinese food and Thai food! 🤤⠀
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What food are you missing right now? ⠀
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#foodie #quarantinegames #quarantinelife #quarantine2020 #smallthings #firstworldproblems #isitoveryet #overit #therapist #therapistlife #wellbeing #selfcare #humanfirst #counsellor #psychotherapist #counsellorsofinstagram #therapistsofinstagram
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Positive friendships are needed now more than ever Positive friendships are needed now more than ever. ⠀
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They are the people who keep us going and remind us when we are doing our best. ⠀
They lift us up when we’re feeling down and remind us that we are not alone 💙💙💙⠀
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It makes us appreciate and value the important people in our lives and recognise the type of relationships or energy we could do without. ⠀
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Tag your bestie or somebody who you think needs to see this. ⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️ .
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#relationships #healthyrelationships #healthyrelationshipsmatter #healthyboundaries #boundaries #boundariesarehealthy #friendshipgoals #girltribe #loveyourcircle #supportyourfriends #healthyfriendships #emotionalwellbeing #emotionalsupport #therapistsofinstagram #counsellorsofinstagram #quarantineproblems #quaratinelife
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How do you manage when you’re having a bad day? How do you manage when you’re having a bad day? ⠀
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Bad days or bad moments are understandably happening a lot more frequently these days. ⠀
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I can notice when I feel the need for more space, I feel irritable, I’m being snappy, lethargic or like I just can’t be bothered! ⠀
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It’s not always easy, but one thing that I find that helps me is to recognise that every day is a fresh start to try again. ⛅️🌈⠀
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What’s helping you to manage your bad days right now? ⠀
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#onedayatatime #gracenotperfection #selfisolation #socialdistancing2020 #inthistogether #thistooshallpass #spreadkindness #selfcompassion #selfacceptance #selflove #copingstrategies #kindness #bekind #kindnessmatters #kindnessisfree #bekindtooneanother #actofkindness #compassion #selfless #kindnessiscontagious #relationships #healthyrelationships #counselling #psychotherapy #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapistsofinstagram #counsellorsofinstagram #newframetherapy #stalbans
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POSITIVE SELF TALKThe way you talk to yourself m POSITIVE SELF TALKThe way you talk to yourself matters.
If your internal dialogue or inner critic is constantly feeding you information that you are not good enough, you can work on actively changing the narrative.
If some of these statements resonate with you, try saying the alternative statement and see how that feels. .
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#innercritic #selfcritic #banishyourinnercritic #challengeyourinnercritic #challengeyourthoughts #negativethinking #limitingbeliefs #selfsabotage #dontbelieveeverythingyouthink #youarenotyourthoughts #anxiety #perfectionism #impostersyndrome #anxietyproblems #anxietyrecovery #selfworth #selfvalidation #selfwork #counselling #psychotherapy #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapistsofinstagram #counsellorsofinstagram #newframetherapy #stalbans
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It’s worth a try, right 🤷🏽‍♀️ . . . It’s worth a try, right 🤷🏽‍♀️
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#trueself #selfvalidation #selfwork #selfacceptance #selfworth #selfawareness #selfawarenessjourney #selfgrowth #emotionalintelligence #resilience #selfcare #therapistsofinstagram #counsellorsofinstagram #newframetherapy #stalbans
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It’s not always about how productive we’re bei It’s not always about how productive we’re being.
We are in survival mode right now.
One thing I’ve been doing more of is listening to podcasts.
It means I can have a bit more control over what I’m listening to and I can choose to listen to things pre Covid if I want to feel some sense of normality.
Are there any podcasts that you listen to that you would recommend?
Let me know in the comments ⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️
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#onedayatatime #gracenotperfection #selfisolation #socialdistancing2020 #inthistogether #thistooshallpass #spreadkindness #selfcompassion #selfacceptance #selflove #copingstrategies #anxiety #anxietyrelief #trauma #traumarecovery #counselling #psychotherapy #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapistsofinstagram #counsellorsofinstagram #newframetherapy #stalbans
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Let’s play a game. Can you say any of these wit Let’s play a game.
Can you say any of these without sounding sarcastic AF?
Winners get a special prize - ok there’s no prize but you get to spend 10 seconds doing something fun. .
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#justforfun #onedayatatime #gracenotperfection #selfisolation #socialdistancing2020 #inthistogether #thistooshallpass #spreadkindness #selfcompassion #selfcare #selfacceptance #selflove #copingstrategies #emotionalhealth #emotionalwellbeing #mentalhealth #therapistsofinstagram #counsellorsofinstagram
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FINDING IT HARD TO SET BOUNDARIES? These are just FINDING IT HARD TO SET BOUNDARIES?
These are just some of the reasons that I hear in and out of the therapy room that stops people from having the right kind of relationships.
The funny thing is that a lot of these ideas are based on unhelpful beliefs that keep you stuck and fearful of doing something that you have every right to do!
People don’t necessarily have to understand your boundaries, but they do have to respect them.
Do any of these reasons resonate with you? *
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You are good enough, even if you have no idea what You are good enough, even if you have no idea what day of the week it is 💙
Hint: neither do I
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BOUNDARIES. Let’s talk about boundaries. This BOUNDARIES.
Let’s talk about boundaries.
This can be so underrated but such an important part of having healthy and mutually respectful relationships 💙Boundaries are not always met with open arms and it can make people feel very uncomfortable, but it really shouldn’t.
Sometimes when there is discomfort, it’s a sign that it’s something that needs addressing⛔️ ➡️It sets the tone for how you expect to be treated ➡️Let’s people know what you will and won’t accept ➡️Shows that you value your self and your space
How do you feel about boundaries? Let me know in the comments 👇🏾👇🏾👇🏾 * * * *#boundaries #healthyboundaries #relationships #healthyrelationships #toxicrelationships #complextrauma #abusiverelationship #covertnarcississist #toxicfriends #narcississtfree #traumabond #narcissist #narcississticabuse #relationalabuse #relationaltrauma #traumarecovery #healing #respect #autonomy #selfvalue #selfworth #selfcare #counselling #psychotherapy #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapistsofinstagram #counsellorsofinstagram #newframetherapy #stalbans
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One of the things I’ve been trying to do recentl One of the things I’ve been trying to do recently during this lockdown is to get through more reading. 📚⠀
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I have a bit of a book obsession and keep buying more without even opening the ones I already have 🤪⠀
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The Gifts of Imperfection explores wholehearted living and what it means to be brave, ditch the perfectionism and show up for yourself. ⠀
Where appropriate, I’m also recommending this one to clients. ⠀
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➡️If you struggle with people pleasing and perfectionism this is most definitely one to read. ⠀
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If like me concentration is a bit of a challenge at the moment, it’s a fairly short and easy read but it most definitely gets you thinking. ⠀
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I needed to take a break. I was starting to get pr I needed to take a break. I was starting to get pretty annoyed at all the COVID talk and the pictures and posts of 'look how perfect I'm doing during the world-wide pandemic.'⁠
It didn't feel very nice so I took some time to regroup and reach a better mindset. ⁠
I'm not all the way there yet, but I'm continuing to work on it and I'm trying to be open to the process. ⁠
If at any time you feel like this, you are not alone, it feels pretty sucky but thankfully, it doesn't last. ⁠
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HIGH FUNCTIONING ANXIETY The hidden parts of anxie HIGH FUNCTIONING ANXIETY
The hidden parts of anxiety that aren't often talked about or even recognised as anxiety. ⁠It's not always panic attacks or feeling fearful of new situations. ⁠Sometimes it's the way that we talk to ourselves or how we think we are perceived by others. ⁠You can be extremely high functioning, perhaps a little too high functioning by keeping busy by doing ALL the things.
This might help you to feel as though you have a sense of control when your thoughts are going 100 miles an hour. .⁠
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#hiddenanxiety #anxiety #anxietyproblems #anxietythoughts #overcominganxiety ##anxietyrecovery #socialanxiety #innercritic #selfcritic ##challengeyourinnercritic s #negativethinking #limitingbeliefs #selfsabotage #dontbelieveeverythingyouthink #youarenotyourthoughts #anxiety #perfectionism #impostersyndrome  #selfworth #selfvalidation #selfwork #counselling #psychotherapy #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapistsofinstagram #counsellorsofinstagram #newframetherapy #stalbans
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Adulting. Most of the time it sucks. I think I wa Adulting. Most of the time it sucks.
I think I want to put that on a t-shirt. ⁠
There was nothing I wanted more as a kid than to be a grown up.
Now look. ⁠
At least there was no social media to document all of the epic fails so that's something. ⁠
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WHAT SHOWING UP FOR YOURSELF LOOKS LIKE⁠It's n WHAT SHOWING UP FOR YOURSELF LOOKS LIKE⁠It's not always easy and it's often messy work, but the payoff makes it so worthwhile 💙💙
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Zoom in to get the real benefit of this gem.⁠ 📸This fab flow chart image courtesy of @nofucksgivenguides .⁠
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The little things are actually the big things. ⁠ The little things are actually the big things. ⁠
Maybe we all forgot this a little bit (or a lot) and can use some of this time to reflect and reset. ⁠
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THINGS YOU CAN CONTROL RIGHT NOW⁠ ⁠ While we a THINGS YOU CAN CONTROL RIGHT NOW⁠
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No matter how much we think, worry, or stress about it, what will be, will be. ⁠
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#onedayatatime #gracenotperfection #selfisolation #socialdistancing2020 #inthistogether #thistooshallpass #spreadkindness #selfcompassion #selfacceptance #selflove #copingstrategies #anxiety #anxietyproblems #anxietythoughts #overcominganxiety #challengeyourthoughts #anxietyrecovery #socialanxiety ⁠
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THINGS TO HELP ANXIETY It’s all about using wha THINGS TO HELP ANXIETY
It’s all about using what works for you.
If deep breathing isn’t your thing or you’re finding it difficult right now, that’s okay.
Adjust accordingly to what it is that you need in the present moment.
I’m going to be posting more on anxiety while we continue to navigate these uncertain times. .
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#anxiety #anxietyproblems #anxietythoughts #overcominganxiety #challengeyourthoughts #anxietyrecovery #socialanxiety #mentalhealth #mentalhealthrecovery #counselling #psychotherapy #onedayatatime #gracenotperfection #selfisolation #socialdistancing2020 #inthistogether #thistooshallpass #spreadkindness #selfcompassion #selfacceptance #selflove #copingstrategies #counselling #psychotherapy #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapistsofinstagram #counsellorsofinstagram #newframetherapy #stalbans
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In need of some focused help with anxiety? 🌟In In need of some focused help with anxiety? 🌟In addition to my regular individual and couples sessions, I am introducing a new 30 minute wellness check in.
This is not a counselling session but can be used as a one off session to look at how you are currently coping and introduce further management tools for stress and anxiety.This is a great option if ➡️ You’re feeling overwhelmed and would rather have a space away from family and friends to get some practical support ➡️ You want to speak freely without the person you’re speaking to freaking out with you 😱 ➡️ You want to speak to a qualified professional who already works with anxiety ➡️ You would like specific advice that is focused on you. ➡️ You’d like some support but don’t feel like you need a full therapy session right now.
All sessions take place ONLINE so that we can stay safe and continue practicing social distancing.There is also LIMITED availability for front line key workers for a FREE 30 minute check in or a full counselling session at a reduced fee.
Visit my bio and click the book button to schedule your appointment or send me a DM if you want further information. .
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#inthistogether #socialdistancing2020  #onlinetherapy #onlinetherapist #mentalhealth #mentalhealthmatters #wellbeing #mentalhealthsupport #anxietysupport #anxietyrelief #anxietyproblems #therapistsofinstagram #counsellorsofinstagram #stalbans #stalbansbusinesses #counsellor #psychotherapist #mentalhealthadvocate
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Take me back to the good old days... . . . #quaran Take me back to the good old days...
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#quarantinelife #quarantineandchill #simpletimes #socialdistancing2020 #virtualhug #uncertainty #anxietyproblems #therapist #therapistmemes #counsellorsofinstagram #therapistsofinstagram #newframetherapy
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Have you taken time to do something that can helpf Have you taken time to do something that can helpful to your physical and emotional wellbeing today?You might be making yourself busy homeschooling, or keeping everybody's spirits up, but don't forget about you too. ⁠Taking care of you is the best way for you to be able to help others. ⁠
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Even more things that can help with your mental he Even more things that can help with your mental health. ⁠
Stay strong. We got this. ⁠
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#mentalhealth #mentalhealthmatters #weallhavementalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthsupport #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealthrecovery #askforhelp #itsoktoaskforhelp #supporteachother #helponeanother #bekind #resilience #buildingresilience #lifteachotherup #helpingothers #selfwork #support #strength #strengthinnumbers #counselling #psychotherapy #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapistsofinstagram #counsellorsofinstagram #newframetherapy #stalbans #stalbansbusinesses
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We are all in period of uncertainty, we want answe We are all in period of uncertainty, we want answers and something concrete to work with, but right now we are having to sit with the uncertainty. ⁠The not knowing can be tough, try and gently shift your focus on the things that you can control.⁠
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#uncertainty #overwhelmed #unknown #worrying #scarytimes #reassurance #talkitout #feelyourfeelings #yourfeelingsarevalid #vulnerabilityisstrength #selfkindness #compassion #emotionalwellbeing #overcominganxiety #counselling #psychotherapy#onlinecounselling #onlinetherapist #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapistsofinstagram #counsellorsofinstagram #newframetherapy #stalbans
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Just because we are physically distancing, that do Just because we are physically distancing, that doesn’t mean we have to stop emotionally connecting. ⠀
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#stayconnected #socialdistancing2020 #quarantine2020 #stayingpositive #stayinghomesaveslives #socialresponsibility #inthistogether #doyourpart #healthyrelationships #mentalhealthmatters #emotionalwellbeing #stalbansbusinesses #counsellorsofinstagram #therapistsofinstagram #stalbans #hertfordshire
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Since moving my practice online I’ve made some a Since moving my practice online I’ve made some adjustments to make the booking process easier. ➡️➡️You can now visit the link in bio to directly book an appointment 🔗Online therapy offers more flexibility, you can continue practicing social distancing and maintain your mental health in a way that is just as effective as in person therapy.
Any questions, send me a DM.
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#onlinecounselling #onlinetherapy #onlinecounsellor #onlinetherapist #socialdistancing2020 #stayathome #relationshiptherapy #relationshiptherapist #relationaltrauma #traumarecovery #narcissisticabuserecovery #selfcarejourney #selfworth #anxietyrelief #anxietyproblems #counselling #psychotherapy #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapist #therapistofinstagram #counsellorsofinstagram #stalbansmums #stalbansbusinesses #stalbans #hertfordshire #newframetherapy
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THINGS THAT HELP YOUR MENTAL HEALTH⁠ ⁠ This li THINGS THAT HELP YOUR MENTAL HEALTH⁠
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This list is not exhaustive as there are so many things that can help you with your mental health at different times. ⁠
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I hit a bit of slump over the weekend and used yoga and meditation to get out of my mental funk.⁠
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Is there anything here that works for you? ⁠
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#mentalhealth #mentalhealthmatters #weallhavementalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthsupport #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalwellbeing #mentalhealthrecovery #emotionalhealth #selfcompassion #onlinetherapy #onlinetherapist #onlinecounselling #therapist #therapistlife #relationshiptherapy #therapistsofinstagram #counsellorsofinstagram #stalbansbuisnesses #stalbans #newframetherapy
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BOOK RECOMMENDATION ⁠ ⁠ When one of you in the BOOK RECOMMENDATION ⁠
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When one of you in the relationship is not much of a talker, I’d recommend How to Improve your Marriage without Talking about it. The title is a good indicator of what to expect. ⁠
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If your partner immediately becomes distant or avoidant when it’s time to resolve issues, this is a good read for you. ⁠
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There are parts that are somewhat gender stereotypical, but it’s also good reading material that can help you to influence your relationship for the better without needing to have “the talk”. ⁠
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#relationships #healthyrelationships #trust #respect #love #connection #communication #intimacy #attachment #secureattachment #therapyhelps #couplescounselling #relationshiptherapy #relationshipcoaching #relationshiptips #relationshiptalk #marriagecounselling #couplegoals⁠
#relationshipgoals #boundaries #healthyboundaries #counselling #psychotherapy #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapistsofinstagram #counsellorsofinstagram #newframetherapy #stalbans
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There’s a lot of advice going around at the mome There’s a lot of advice going around at the moment and at the risk of putting more out there, I think it’s important to acknowledge that it’s okay to feel overwhelmed and overloaded with it all. It’s a lot.
If you need a minute to find your feet and can’t even think about a routine right now, that’s okay.
One day at a time 💙
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#onedayatatime #gracenotperfection #selfisolation #socialdistancing2020 #inthistogether #thistooshallpass #spreadkindness #selfcompassion #selfacceptance #selflove #counselling #psychotherapy #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapistsofinstagram #counsellorsofinstagram #newframetherapy #stalbans
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We all have a social responsibility to do what is We all have a social responsibility to do what is being asked of us.
There are front line workers putting themselves and their families at risk, so that we can all be safe 💙While mental health is always extremely important, therapy online is just effective as providing therapy face to face.
I am now exclusively working online, which means I am available to a wider audience from all over the UK which offers a lot more flexibility. ➡️Get in touch if you’d like to book a free 15 minute consultation.
For more tips on how you can manage your mental wellbeing during COVID-19 visit the link in my bio 🔗
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#socialdistancing2020 #stayathome #socialresponsibility #inthistogether #mentalhealthmatters #mentalwellbeing #onlinecounselling #onlinetherapy #counsellingonline #onlinetherapy #onlinetherapist #counselling #psychotherapy #selfwork #selfcare #selfcareeveryday #emotionalwellbeing #counsellorsofinstagram #therapistsofinstagram #stalbansbusinesses #stalbans #uktherapist #newframetherapy
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There are the doers who get stuck straight into a There are the doers who get stuck straight into a routine, keeping busy and staying proactive as a way of coping.
But there are also the observers, the ones who need to take a minute and digest what is happening around them. This is a little more me.
There is no right or wrong, just a difference in coping with this new (temporary) way of life 💙
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#copingstrategies #stressresponse #selfisolation #socialdistance #socialdistancing #spreadkindness #compassion #selfcompassion #selfcare #selfcarematters #mentalhealthmatters #gratitudepractice #selfawareness #selfawarenessjourney #onlinetherapy #onlinetherapist #counsellorsofinstagram #therapistsofinstagram #psychotherapist #counsellor #newframetherapy
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This is more true now than ever before. It’s be This is more true now than ever before.
It’s been a real shift in life as we know it for everybody.
This week, I’ve had to transfer my entire practice to working solely online so that I could self isolate and make sure I was doing my part in keeping these germs contained.
While I would do the odd session online for regular clients if they moved away or during travel for work, working this way exclusively is completely out of my comfort zone.
I had already started some self study some months ago for online therapy but had been taking my time with it as it wasn’t a priority.
How things can change in a week!
This is not my first choice in working, I much prefer face to face but it’s important that I’m able to keep this service going.
So, I’ve put in the time and research to make sure that I’m doing it in the best way possible that ensures ethical practice and will continue to learn along the way.
I’m giving myself a virtual pat on the back for adapting to change.What changes have you had to make to keep things going? .
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#wingingit #socialdistancing #selfisolation #onlinetherapy #onlinetherapist #onlinecounselling #therapist #supportsmallbusiness #workingonline #therapistlife #workfromanywhere #workingfromhome #relationships #anxiety #trauma #mentalhealthmatters #relationshiptherapy #mentalhealthworker #therapistsofinstagram #counsellorsofinstagram
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We are going to be spending a lot more time with o We are going to be spending a lot more time with our spouses and there might be moments where it can feel pretty intense. *
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Being under each other’s feet when your relationship is in a good place is one thing, but when things are already challenging in the relationship 😱
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On the flip side there has also been a surge in couples filing for divorce, I guess spending that much time together makes relationship problems that much harder to ignore. .
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#selfisolation #socialdistancing #relationships #healthyrelationships #toxicrelationships #couplescounselling #couplestherapy #relationshiptherapy #relationshipcoaching #relationshiptips #relationshiptalk #marriagecounselling #couplegoals
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Introverts unite! How are you coping with the soc Introverts unite!
How are you coping with the social distancing?
I am a self confessed introvert most of the time and am happy in my own company but this - this is different.
I almost lost my shit today because I want the choice of being able to go out and I don’t like being told what to do 🙈For the greater good I understand the necessary restrictions and am staying home.Putting things into perspective I am extremely lucky.
I’m in good health, I have a roof over my head, I have food and a normal amount of loo roll 🧻I’ve also been able to continue working remotely with my clients and offer that continual support in such an uncertain time.
I am also super grateful for Netflix right now.
How are you keeping yourselves entertained?
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#introvert #introvertsunite #selfisolation #socialdistancing #quarantineandchill #inthistogether #bekindtooneanother #spreadkindness #communityspirit #strongertogether #therapist #therapistlife #onlinetherapist #onlinetherapy #counselling #psychotherapy #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapistsofinstagram #counsellorsofinstagram #newframetherapy #stalbans
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There is a lot of crazy happening in the world rig There is a lot of crazy happening in the world right now. ⁠
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It can feel comforting to remember that there is nothing more important than connection 💙⁠
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RECOGNISE YOUR VICTIM MINDSET 🍃A victim mindset RECOGNISE YOUR VICTIM MINDSET 🍃A victim mindset is where you tend to feel powerless and feel like the whole world is against you. 🍃You might look to others for the answers as you don’t have faith in your own capabilities. 🍃This is also another position in the drama triangle, which keeps you stuck and lacking in autonomy.
It can feel extremely frustrating on both sides of a victim mindset, but it can really help to have a compassionate view about where these beliefs might come from. .
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#victimmindset #dramatriangle #breakthecycle #relationaltrauma #healingtrauma #toxicrelationships #powerstruggle #takeresponsibility #accountability #selfwork #selfawareness #healthyrelationships #boundaries #healthyboundaries #emotionalintellingence #therapy #counselling #psychotherapy #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapistsofinstagram #counsellorsofinstagram #newframetherapy #stalbans
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CHARACTERISTICS OF A RESCUERPeople who take on t CHARACTERISTICS OF A RESCUERPeople who take on the form of the Rescuer in relationships are often enablers and tend to make situations worse rather than better. ⁠This is explained further in the drama triangle, where there is also the role of the persecutor and victim.
Identifying your role in the drama triangle can be your way out by adapting or changing how you usually respond. .⁠
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It’s completely normal to feel anxious about wha It’s completely normal to feel anxious about what is going on in the world right now. ⠀
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Visit the link in bio to read the blog in full 🔗⠀ Stay safe, people 🙏🏾
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