Couples Counselling & Relationship Therapy with experienced counsellor and psychotherapist Lizandra Leigertwood MA in St Albans, Hertfordshire.
Is your relationship in crisis?
Do you find yourselves arguing most of the time or co-existing in stony silence?
Are you finding it difficult to communicate effectively?
Do you want a healthier and more loving relationship?
Couples therapy or marriage counselling is an effective solution focused talking therapy for those experiencing relational difficulties regardless of marital status, religion, age or sexual orientation.
Marriage counselling is designed to create happier healthier relationships based on trust, respect and mutual understanding.
Relationships are never easy, external pressures can add to those challenges.
Work related stress, financial issues, taking care of children and the general day to day busyness of life can contribute to distancing in the relationship, where it feels like you are coexisting rather than fostering a strong relationship.
How do we know we need couples counselling?
Distancing in the relationship can cause additional strain when couples feel that their needs are not being met.
This can cause tension, hostility and add to conflict when both or one partner feels unsatisfied or unfulfilled within the relationship.
If you are beginning to feel alone in your relationship or you feel like you are both stuck, having the exact same argument, unable to agree or see things from your partner’s perspective, now would be a good time to seek additional professional support to help your relationship and reestablish your loving loving connection.
Relationship therapy allows a safe space to really talk about those issues that perhaps you’ve been avoiding, particularly when you need to have some difficult conversations about family, finances, or the fact that you no longer feel as in love as you used to.
This is a great opportunity to learn how to have these difficult conversations with each other, so that you can feel heard and valued in your relationship.
Most importantly, you can identify what it is exactly that needs to change in your relationship, in order for you both to once again feel happy.
Often, difficulties in relationships arise from miscommunication, or no real communication at all when it comes to life’s important decisions.
Instead of assuming you know how your partner feels about certain issues, it’s important to explicitly talk, listen and understand, to make sure that you are both working towards a partnership and there are no nasty surprises on the horizon.
Couples counselling can be an effective relationship health check for those who usually find it difficult putting in the necessary quality time into the relationship, who want to keep and maintain an emotional connection with their loved one for a long lasting relationship.
Your relationship doesn’t have to be at the point of crisis to see the benefit of therapy, it can be used as an additional support taking your relationship from just okay, to great!
How can you help my relationship?
When you are in a relationship it can be difficult when you are in an emotive state due to stress to think rationally, clearly and resolve conflict in a way that is helpful.
Having an impartial professional can be the extra assistance you need, who will treat your relationship as the client, without judgement, blaming or taking sides.
As a counsellor and psychotherapist I have undertaken specific training in working with couples to facilitate stronger and emotionally connected relationships.
This can be achieved in a number of ways:
- Understanding the relational patterns specific to your relationship and how you encounter conflict and deal with differences.
- Practical tool based skills to communicate effectively to resolve conflict, learn to compromise and become emotionally connected.
- Help you to understand your needs in the relationship and how you can get more of those needs met from your partner.
How long will it take?
Many couples are able to make effective changes within 6-10 weekly sessions and find this enough to continue on their own with the new skills learned during the course of therapy.
Every relationship is individual and unique, as a broad average couples counselling can change your relationship within three months or up to a year depending on the condition of your relationship.
This can be mutually discussed in your first sessions, where we will work collaboratively to an agreed timescale.
Sessions are most effective when they take place on a weekly basis, this allows time to learn skills and complete some small relationship building tasks in between the sessions where appropriate.
Each couple is an individual and your therapy will be treated as such. I offer a bespoke service that works towards the needs of your relationship and what it is you both would like to achieve from couples counselling.
What are the benefits of marriage counselling?
There are many benefits to attending marriage counselling with your spouse.
If your relationship is stuck in a rut, you can rebuild your emotional connection, feel valued and listened to.
You can learn what you your needs are within the relationship, and how your partner can facilitate those needs.
You can understand more about yourself and how to make your relationship grow stronger in intimacy, love and connection. Break free of the negative cycle and repetitive arguments, regain your trust, and get back to a place of love and happiness.
Relationship coaching can help you every step of the way to get back to the relationship that you want.
How much does it cost?
Couples counselling is £70 per hour. Some couples find it useful to have the option of additional time up to 90 minutes subject to availability. I would recommend a minimum of 6 sessions to experience the maximum benefit.
I’m an integrative relational psychotherapeutic counsellor, which means I am trained in a number of approaches to find what works best for you.
Couples therapy is a solution focused approach that can include some skills building in between sessions to consolidate what you learn about your relationship and make the most out of your therapy.
I have a contemporary non-judgemental approach and will ultimately work to help you build the kind of relationship that you want. I work together with my couples to find out what that might look like. You can find out more about me here.
My consultation room is a modern, quiet, confidential space in the London Colney area of St Albans. There is plenty of free parking available and easy access from the M25 and M1.
Appointments are usually offered within 7-10 days of contact.
Get in contact today for an informal chat or to book an initial assessment to see how couples counselling can help you, if you have any further questions, please use the confidential contact form below where you will receive a response within 24 hours.