The Truth about Narcissism; Counselling in St Albans

The Truth about Narcissism

By Lizandra | 10:30 am

Narcissism has become a more commonly used term in recent years, being narcissistic is often thought of as vanity or being self obsessed, but the roots of narcissism and how this can impact relationships is much deeper than this.

The relational impact of being around somebody who has narcissistic traits can be extremely damaging to your self esteem, self worth and mental health.
Narcissistic emotional abuse is extremely common but it rarely talked about openly, fuelling the unfair feeling of shame for the person who has been the victim of this form of emotional abuse.

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Attachment Blog; Counselling in St Albans;

Why you need to know about Attachment in Relationships

By Lizandra | 10:30 am

We all have our own attachment style in relationships and having a basic understanding of attachment is a really helpful tool to negotiate the intricacies of intimate relationships.
Knowing your attachment style helps you to identify your own role within relationships, in terms of what your own needs are and how to recognise your relational emotional wounds.
This means developing your self awareness and understanding what some of your tiggers in relationships might be.

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How to Survive a Toxic Family Christmas Blog; St Albans Counselling

How to Survive a Toxic Family Christmas

By Lizandra | 10:30 am

Christmas can be a really exciting time of the year for some. If you have a toxic family full of tension and conflict, the idea of everybody coming together, to sit around and be in close company for the whole day can be enough to make you break into a cold sweat.
Christmas with the family can feel quite contained and the environment is quite isolating, even when the family dynamics are not particularly toxic.
The streets become eerily quiet and with everything on hiatus it can feel like a sense of being trapped, so it’s important to know what you can do and how you can survive a toxic family Christmas without completely losing your sanity.

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How to Escape the Drama Triangle Blog; St Albans Counselling and Online

How to Escape the Drama Triangle

By Lizandra | 9:49 am

The drama triangle: Engaging in the same pattern of destructive behaviours during times of conflict.
Do you find yourself stuck in certain relationships where you continue to have the same negative repetitive behaviours?
You have most likely observed this toxic dynamic within reality television (any pick of the Housewives reality shows, Love Island and Celebrity Big Brother spring to mind), after reading this blog you’ll begin to recognise it within your own relational encounters too.
The Drama Triangle is a self destructive, infuriating and an unhealthy way to resolve conflict.

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Help with Depression Blog; Counselling Service in St Albans, Herts.

5 Tips on How You Can Help with Depression

By Lizandra | 12:06 pm

Depression is the most predominant mental health condition worldwide. 

The symptoms of depression include feeling extremely low for extended periods of time, low feelings of self worth, hopelessness, lethargy, apathy, loss of appetite and sleep disturbances.

There are also socioeconomic factors which can make people more susceptible or vulnerable to symptoms of depression such as belonging to black, asian or ethnic minority groups, young males, the LGBTQ+ community, victims of abuse, having learning disabilities, substance abuse and homelessness. 

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Gratitude in Relationships Blog; Relationship Therapy in St Albans

Gratitude in Relationships

By Lizandra | 12:05 pm

When was the last time you openly expressed gratitude in your relationship? 
Yesterday, last week, last month even. 
If you have to spend longer than a moment to think about it, this is probably an area where you can begin to actively put in some time and effort in expressing gratitude with your partner. 
I get it’s probably not at the top of your list of priorities, there’s your work/life balance to consider, the everyday household tasks, trying to keep yourself healthy, maintain a social life, maybe you have kids, kids that are so young that all you are thinking about is getting a good nights sleep, never mind telling your wo(man) what a great job they’re doing.
I get it, life is busy and you’re juggling more than a handful of things at the moment. 
That doesn’t mean your relationship should become neglected or forgotten about as a result. 

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Toxic Behaviours in Relationships Blog Post; Relationship Therapy Hertfordshire

4 Toxic Behaviours in Relationships

By Lizandra | 6:33 pm

Toxic behaviours within a relationship can be one the main factors why a couple in crisis will seek relationship therapy or marriage guidance. When a couple is unable to break the pattern of conflict it is usually then that they will seek professional support to help them to navigate their way back to a healthy relationship. 

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The Power of Authenticity Blog; Counselling in St Albans; New Frame Therapy

The Power of Authenticity

By Lizandra | 1:41 pm

With the power of authenticity, we have the power to be our true selves, evolving, messy, complicated, loving and a whole lot more. 
We all have different faces or personas that we present to the world, we have different aspects or different versions of who we are, it’s a part of being human that we’re full of complexities and paradox contradictions.  
There’s who you are with friends; relaxed, funny, happy, who you are with your family; dependable, loving, loyal, who you are at work, professional, rational, reliable. 
These parts are all versions that make up who we are, it’s what makes us individual, unique, it gives us our idiosyncrasies, personality and develops our sense of self.

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Common Myths About Counselling Blog; Counselling in St Albans

Common Myths About Counselling

By Lizandra | 5:18 pm

As a psychotherapist in private practice and a mental health advocate, I feel counselling is still stigmatised, largely because it is misunderstood, misrepresented and highly undervalued. In recent years there has been an increase in public awareness and an understanding of how important the role of therapy can play in overall mental health and wellbeing.

Despite this, there are still a number of common myths about counselling that either prevents people from seeking out counselling and psychotherapy, talking about therapy, or openly discussing when they are in the process of counselling.

There are a lot of misconceptions from the media and other sources about counselling and what you can expect when going to see a therapist.

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Free Self Care Survival Tips Blog. Counselling in St Albans

Free Self Care Survival Tips

By Lizandra | 9:27 am

The term Self Care is becoming a common phenomena with many of its own hashtags #selfcare #selfcaresaturday #selfcaresunday are just a few with plenty of more out there in the world of social media. No doubt you would heard the term used before, but with all this talk of self care, what does it actually mean and how does it help people who want to look better and feel better about themselves?  I often share with my clients the importance of self care and why it’s necessary to incorporate it as part of a healthy lifestyle whenever it is possible, including those times where there seems to be barriers or challenges preventing you from practicing self care.It can be particularly useful to those who are already struggling with mental health issues and find it difficult to identify when some of their own basic needs are not being met, no matter how small. 

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How (Not) to get over a broken heart Blog; New Frame Counselling & Psychotherapy St Albans

How (NOT) to get over a broken heart

By Lizandra | 4:50 pm

Whether or not you are into the sentiment, Valentine’s Day is fast approaching. It’s a difficult occasion to miss with every high street chain offering dine in meals for two, deals on flowers, chocolates, its rather inescapable. 
You may have a heightened awareness of it all if you’ve recently ended a relationship and you are living with a broken heart. 
Ending a relationship can be difficult, particularly if it’s not something you were prepared for or wanted. 
This may sound extreme, but the end of a relationship is very similar to the grieving process and what that means to come to terms with and accept your loss. 

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Couples Counselling & Relationship Therapy Blog; New Frame Counselling & Psychotherapy

Couples Counselling It Takes Two

By Lizandra | 6:50 pm

If you are in a stage in your relationship where every discussion you have with your partner turns into an argument or disagreement, seeking outside professional help in the form of couples counselling might be an another issue where you disagree.
One partner may be feeling more hopeless about the relationship, for them seeking professional help is the last attempt before considering ending the relationship all together.

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